I am in a 5 years+ relationship with my gf. Recently, she cheated on me by going to another guy’s house to make out totally naked. Make out, not sex, since she claimed that they stop before penetration.
Ever since then, my gf and me kept quarreling but mainly because she kept meeting and chatting with that guy despite me repeating that i am not ok with it.
Quoted in her own words, “Why can’t i be friends with him? As long as we don’t cross the line, and never do anything, then it is ok right?” that was the argument she gave me.
Personally, i would prefer if she cut off all contact with that guy if she still wants to stay with me. It disturbs me because she showed that she is capable of lying to me to meet that guy. She rejected meeting me to go out with that guy on multiple occasions: going to USS, spending national day with him, inviting him to her hall and making out there as well.
But i want to get third party opinions here. Is it ok for her to maintain contact with that guy? Am i the only one who thinks it isn’t ok at all? Is it ruthless of me to tell her to cut off all contact with that guy?