I totally agree with 13726 about how we shouldn’t view westerners as superior in their culture to us. I say this as someone who used to really admire westerners. Perhaps when I was young, they may have been. But now I’m older and have dated a fairly significant number of westerners, they’re really not that great.
Let’s bust some myths:
1. Date Ang Moh very rich.
Fantasy: Go on high class dates. Have guy pay for everything.
Reality: I think it’s the type of angmohs sg attracts. They like the whole rustic shit. At most bring you to bars but none of the fancy stuff. Also, dates with westerners don’t even fucking comprise of eating. I don’t fucking know why. And if you do eat, it’s not date setting & you go dutch. Fml.
Asian plus point: The guys who do take you to posh restaurants are Chinese guys! Or if you were lucky as me to date one of the elite Malays in SG who are fkg rich(ya super rare but got), also treats you damn nice. Some days hawker food, some days hotel food, some days restaurant food. I think fairly reasonable. OH! And Asian guys will always pay, willingly. Once, we didn’t go out much b/c he was broke. I offered to pay for dates cos I rly wanted to go out but he refused.
2. Date Ang Moh can talk under the sun about intellectual shit
Fantasy: You think that because our education is based off british system & all the good universities are in Europe/US that westerners would want to hold intellectual conversations when in romantic relationships. That you’d read shakespeare together & talk about A Streetcar Named Desire.
Reality: okay, no doubt they’re very smart. So too are singaporeans in general. But somehow angmohs just don’t talk about intellectual stuff during a romantic r/s.
Asian plus point: on the other hand, the singaporeans I’ve dated & guy friends I have platonic r/s with talk about current affairs, fave lit books, social issues etc. and they like hearing my opinion on things. Heck, my boyf & I got into a rly heated argument abt freedom of choice which started out as a qn, turned into a debate and then an argument and then we fought so much, we broke up so that’s the end of it. But wow! The intellectual rigour was amazing!
3. Date Ang Moh can get married & have cute half-angmoh, half-asian baby
Fantasy: Mixed babies are just so adorably cute and they grow up to be the most handsome/beautiful people around. Asian gene pool can use a little more in the height department and blue/green/hazel eyes-yes please!
Reality: Forget marriage with an Ang Moh. I don’t understand what it is in their values but how they roll is basically, you’re his forever girlfriend but he will never marry you.
Perhaps you’ll have kids together and it may or may not be deliberate. But marriage is of little importance to them. I went to IUSSP 2013 and the plenary session was about marriage profiles in different parts of the world. In 50 years, the trend in europe is that people won’t be getting married anymore. They’re likely to live together for a long time but not formally register the union. Think Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt except minus the glamour. My problem is… WHO THE FUCK WANTS TO BE A SINGLE PARENT?
Asian plus point: In this regard, I’m pretty glad we’re still traditional in a sense that getting married is a common objective in life here. I’ve broken up before because we both agreed we like each other but don’t want to marry each other because we have different ideas of what our future spouse would be like. It’s like a happy separation. Angmohs on the other hand, just want to keep you so they can still fuck you.
Subjects are mainly aged 27-37. By Western, I mean European. By Asian, I mean local Singaporean. Western doesn’t extend to include Australian & American. Never dated an Australian and only dated 1 american who wasn’t white. He was black. Not African, but like Pacific Islander who liked Spanish food & dance a lot. Sample too small to generalize entire American population but I’d group him with Asian guys in terms of dating culture.
The point of this post is that the world is changing. White guys ain’t as strong as they used to be. Asian guys as as weak as they used to be. The power balance is shifting in favour of Asians and I think we should take stock of how our culture has grown and how we have things in our culture which should be maintained and appreciated such as respect for women. (As in like…we’re not just some fuck toy you know? Pft.)