I know that if I comment on http://www.allsingaporestuff.com/article/beware-growing-parentocracy-nie-don, I will ruffle some feathers but I shall give my 2 cents worth nonetheless.
The article on Parentocracy today seemed to suggest that having more successful parents equals to having successful children because of the additional opportunities that these parents can provide. This equation is unfair. I can cite many examples of successful parents who provide plenty of opportunities for their children and yet their children do not succeed.
Having additional opportunities do not equate to success. Success is earned and one must sweat for it. So let’s say a pair of successful parents have very successful kids. We should not jump in and say they succeeded because of their parents. We don’t know how much effort, hard work and sweat they put in to get to where they are.
Having more opportunities do not equate to having instant success. Coming from a disadvantaged background does not equate to definite failure.
The article also suggests that children who were streamed into the lower streams in the 90s are now parents and their children are disadvantaged. Worse, there is a hint that these children will have a harder time at succeeding. I beg to differ. Coming from a not so advantageous background does not equate to definite failure. There are many examples of fine children from disadvantaged backgrounds who become very successful in their adult years. Again, success comes to those who work and sweat for it.
The article also suggests that parents who provide for extra opportunities for their children ‘widens social inequality’. I’m sorry but nothing in this world is fair. In business, everyone is looking for an edge over the competitor. And that is what keeps the world going round. That’s what levels up the standard of everything. If everything is fair. Then it is communism. Which parent will not want the best for their children? If one can afford it, why not? And for those who can’t, doors are not closed. Schools have ample opportunities for enrichment. Go for it. Again, having extra opportunities do not equate to definite success.
One last thing. The article also suggests that having more successful people is not a very good thing. Widening the social inequalities seems to be a bad thing. It also trivializes the hard work that successful people put in to their work in order to get to where they are. Millionaires in Indonesia do not have money falling on their laps. They work and slog for their money. They spend time away from their families. They are always stressed. Their payout? Their money. They get more than others because of their effort and what’s wrong with that? Isn’t that meritocracy? So what’s wrong with being more successful and earning more? Instead of moping, why not ask how these people got to where they are today? Why not emulate them and learn from them? You want success? You got to work.