Ever since my elder sister passed away I’ve been taking care of her son JJ. I took him in since he was 8 years old and I love him dearly like my own. Now he is a teenager. Being a mother of two young children is easier than a mother of an adolescent. The challenges are different, and this somewhat prepared me of what’s coming for my two daughters later.
I was checking the house computer and saw several pictures of naked men. My two younger girls are too young to use computer. I confronted my JJ and he strongly denied it. After much probe, he finally relented and claimed those obscene pictures belong to him. We asked if he has any issues on sexual orientation and wish to talk about it. JJ said that he was going to tell me and my husband that he thinks he’s gay, but apparently the day came too soon.
We asked many questions to peek into his new found interest and understand when and where it had developed. Over the past year, he became quiet and shut himself in the room often. Throughout the conversation, JJ kept saying that we ‘straight people’ will never understand that he’s born that way. He kept insisting that he was born gay. I felt like a failure because I don’t know where I had gone wrong or what did I do wrong. I have let my sister down. Should I let JJ continue being gay or should I get someone to talk to him like a counsellor?
The most disturbing part is that he claimed it is normal to be gay. Even his teacher is gay. We went to a school website and asked him to show us who is the gay teacher. Apparently the teacher is a HOD. He refused to detail how he got wind of this info. Me and husband got worried. HOD means possibly the teacher can be a principal in future.
My question is: Does MOE conduct background checks on their key appointment personnel before they take on these important roles? So does MOE takes a tolerant stand on LGBT issues?
Z Nur Shahidah